Updated: Feb 7
I started off the year being very intentional with my inner growth... months heading into the end of the year I felt in a place first of instability followed by this need of finding myself and practically questioning everything I was doing and I believed in. I felt that unsettling discomfort that something needed to change.
Sometimes we get to this point whether is work or the kiddos.. you feel you have lost a part of yourself (I know many of you may be nodding understanding what I'm saying, motherhood + trying to have a profession gets overwhelming at times)
I decided that 2020 would be a year of self-growth and spirituality, I needed to make sure that the choices I started to make came from clarity and not from insecurities, fears or previous programming. And I knew making my spirituality a priority would give me that.
Now, it's easier said than done, but it's possible if you set your mind to it, and specially if you set time for it.
And this goes also for those of you who aren’t parents either. Healthy relationships start with a healthy relationship to yourself. Plain and simple.
Some days are easier than others, but setting this a priority in your life will definitely give you the motivation to do what needs to be done to achieve this. This is how I do it:
Create Your Morning Ritual
If you have kids this comes down to logistics, when will you be taking a little bit of time to start your day in a good note. Before they wake up? Before o after they go to school? While they take a morning nap? Be realistic with your plan.
For years I tried meditating before waking up my daughter (wasn't realistic) wasn't working couldn't concentrate felt pressured that it was going to get late. I moved it to after dropping her off in school, HUGE game changer.
Other ways that I'm intentional with my morning, I practice my gratitude exercise, Kundalini class, working out, making breakfast and getting ready for the day. The point is to get realistic about when it will actually happen and adjust plans for the day to make it a priority!
Be Intentional With Your Alone Time
Each week I plan a day or night for myself, and it's always different, dinner & wine with my girlfriends sometimes it's a workout class followed by lunch, other days a night for myself watching Downton Abbey for the third time. The thing is I'm intentional, I use the time I have for myself doing things I really want to do. Disconnecting from social media at that time really helps you stay present and enjoying every minute of it.
Put to work your husband's, sister's or grandparent's babysitting skills if you need to.
Be Clear With What You Need
Start by being clear with what you need, one you know, pass the message along to your partner. As moms, it's so hard to ask for "help" when really they are your partner, they were very involved making the baby, now they can be involved helping out.
Talk it out, and set times so BOTH of you can have alone time during the week.
And if that's not possible.. ask your friends for help, more than likely they would gladly do it. You just need to ask! That's what friends are for, right?!
Making changes are always scary, being afraid is part of the process of inner growth. You can start with small changes, and start from there. You will find yourself feeling happier and more yourself more than ever.
Remember- You will be a better partner, parent, friend and person because of it.